JOBY'S BOOK:

https://jobymartin.com/books/stand-firm

COE 22:

https://coe22.com/about/

OUR NATURAL BEND

• WHY A SIN NATURE IF WE ARE CREATED IN THE IMAGE OF GOD?
• WHY DO WE NATURALLY AND MORE EASILY GRAVITATE TOWARD BAD HABITS?
• GENESIS 3 OPENS THE DOOR FOR SIN AND FOR THE SERPENT. IS THE ANSWER JUST AS BASIC AS THOSE TWO THINGS?

BARRIERSAND MENTAL HEALTH

BIGGEST BARRIER FORMEN ACTING LIKE STRONG MEN?

• PAST WOUNDS OR FAILURES
• CULTURAL NARRATIVE 
• EMASCULATED CHURCH
• SUCCESS & COMFORT

MENTALHEALTH

• SUNDAY SERMON ON MENTAL HEALTH
• WHAT ROLE IN PREVENTING MEN FROM STANDING FIRM AS STRONG MEN?
• LINE BETWEEN CHEMICAL IMBALANCE AND POUTY PARTY?  HOW TO DIFFERENTIATE?

BOOK

STAND FIRM AND ACT LIKE MEN: Becoming the Man You Were Created to Be Instead ofWho the World Says You Are

• 1 CORINTHIANS 16:13

INTRODUCTION  |MANHOOD

WHERE HAVE ALL THEGOOD MEN GONE?  Main problem with men.

• YOU SAY “EVERYBODY WANTS TO BE STRONG NOBODY WANTS TO BE SORE”
• BOYS WANNA BE MEN BUT NOBODY WANTS TO BE MOLDED
• HOW COACHABLE ARE WE AS MEN TODAY?
• NOBODY WANTS THE HARD TRUTH OR SOMEONE TO HOLD UP THE MIRROR
• BIGGEST UP HILL BATTLE FOR YOUNG MEN BECOMING BIBLICALLY MASCULINE LEADERS?
• HOW IS GOD MOLDING YOU PERSONALLY? 

CH 1

WHAT IS A MAN?

• IMAGO DEI
• IN GODS IMAGE

PROBLEMTHEN:

• ADAM
• EVIL PREVAILS WHEN GOOD MEN DO NOTHING
• APATHETIC PASSIVITY

PROBLEMNOW:

• MANS BIGGEST ENEMY IS COMFORT AND APATHY
• QUOTE:
• “This is classic manhood move: duck, cover, blame.”

Ch2: BE WATCHFUL

• DOMINION 
• GUARDS & PROTECTS
• A WATCHFUL MAN IS ON OFFENSE

ENEMY CHUMS THE WATERSKILLERS OF MEN | 

#1   PRIDE

• Prideful people have two options: Be humble or get humbled

• QUOTE: “Humility is not a feeling. Humility is a posture.”

#2 WORRY/SCARCITYMINDSET

• Work to enjoy, along with the command to subdue and cultivate.
• WHY DOES WORK DEFINE AND CONSUME US?
• MORE STUFF? FRIENDS & FAMILY PLAN FOR VALIDATION?
• WHY COL 3:23 IS LOST ON US?

#3 LAZINESS/AVOIDANCE

• FOSTER VOLUNTARY HARDSHIP BY BEING COMFORTABLE WITH DISCOMFORT 
• AGE OF MODERNITY 
• PARENTAL PARADOX | WORK HARD TO BE SUCCESSFUL AND GIVE OUR KIDS A GOOD LIFE BUT WEAKENS THEM FOR ADULTHOOD.

#4 ISOLATION

• PRISON ANALOGY: SOLITARY CONFINEMENT HIGHEST FORM OF PUNISHMENT
• CHURCH HURT | FULL OF IMPERFECT PEOPLE 
• HURT PEOPLE HURT PEOPLE 
• ENEMY ISOLATES THEN DEVOURS

#5 LUST

• KEEP AS A PET AND FEED PERIODICALLY 
• FLEE NOT SET ASIDE
• IF YOU HATE SOMETHING ENOUGH, YOU EVENTUALLY QUIT IT | GOTTA HATE IT ENOUGH
• WHAT CAN MEN PRAY DAILY TO CONQUER THAT PROCLIVITY?

CH 3  STAND FIRM

• ARMOR OF GOD

Ch 4 BE STRONG:  A STRONG MAN IS A SABBATHED MAN,A PERSEVERING MAN,A HUMBLE MAN, A SERVING MAN

• WHY PERSEVERING NOT RESILIENT?
• INTERCHANGEABLE OR INTENTIONAL?

SABBATHED:

• QUOTE:  “A STRONG MAN IS A SABBATHED MAN”
• RE-CENTER & RE-CALIBRATE
• REST IN THE WRESTLE
• PRACTICAL STEPS FOR MEN DURING A SEASON OF WRESTLING WITH TEMPTATION, CONDEMNATION, OR DIRECTION?
• MYTH ABOUT REST?
• WHAT’S THE BIGGEST BARRIER TO ENTRY TO BECOMING A SABBATHED MAN ?

HUMILITY

• HOW DOES A LEADER STAY HUMBLE WHILE MAINTAINING ASSERTIVE AUTHORITY?

• HUMILITY & FAMILY:  YOU SAY “MEN SHOULD BE THE CHIEF APOLOGIZER”

• WHEN DOES AN APOLOGY CARRY LESS WEIGHT?  FOR THE SAME THING MULTIPLE TIMES?  NOT TRUE REPENTANCE 

SERVING

• SERVE NOT BE SERVED
• FIRST WILL BE LAST
• WHY DO SOME ALPHAS SEE SERVING AS WEAK OR COUNTERINTUITIVE TO TIP OF THE SPEAR? 

 CH. 5 LOVE IS..

• QUOTE: Love is your joy in the Lord expressed toward others at great expense to yourself.

 LAST CHAPTER LANDS THE PLANE

• A SON RECEIVESA AN INHERITANCE
• A SON’S STANDING BASED ON POSITION
• A BONDSERVANT EARNS ACCEPTANCE THRU PERFORMANCE 
• A BONDSERVANT OWES A DEBT
• KEY TO PARADIGM SHIFT WHERE WE FULLY UNDERSTAND SONSHIP?